How to Support a Young Child Going in for Surgery: A Parent’s Guide

Watching your child face surgery can be one of the most stressful experiences as a parent. Whether it’s a routine procedure or a major operation, knowing how to emotionally and physically support your child can make a world of difference in their experience and recovery.

This guide will walk you through how to prepare your child for surgery, ease their anxiety, and support them through recovery—while aligning with top resources and medical recommendations.

How to Prepare a Young Child for Surgery

1. Talk About the Procedure in a Child-Friendly Way

Children feel more at ease when they know what to expect. Use simple, reassuring language:

• Instead of: “The doctors will put you to sleep.”
• Say: “The doctors will give you special sleepy medicine, and when you wake up, I’ll be right there.”

For young children, picture books about surgery can be incredibly helpful. My book Can You Smell the Rainbow? was inspired by my own journey as a parent navigating multiple surgeries with my children. It’s designed to help young kids process medical experiences in a comforting way.

2. Help Your Child Express Their Feelings

Children may not always have the words to describe their fear. Instead, they might show signs like:

• Clinginess or separation anxiety
• Changes in sleeping or eating habits
• Acting out or becoming unusually quiet

Encourage expression through art, play, or storytelling. Ask open-ended questions like:

• “What do you think the hospital will be like?”
• “Is there anything that worries you?”

Having a favorite stuffed animal or comfort object with them at the hospital can provide emotional support.

What to Pack for the Hospital

A well-packed hospital bag can make your child’s experience less stressful. Here’s what to bring:

✔ Favorite stuffed toy or blanket – for comfort
✔ Storybooks or activity books – to keep them engaged
✔ iPad or tablet with their favorite shows – distraction is key!
✔ Soft pajamas – hospitals can feel cold
✔ Snacks (if allowed) – a familiar treat after fasting
✔ A comfort item for you – parents need support too!

How to Support Your Child After Surgery

3. Create a Cozy Recovery Space at Home

Children heal better when they feel safe and comfortable. Set up a calm space with:

• Soft pillows and blankets
• Easy-to-reach water and snacks
• Their favorite books or quiet activities

Pro tip: Create a ‘recovery chart’ where they can add stickers for every small milestone—it helps them feel in control!

4. Prepare for Post-Surgery Emotions

After surgery, it’s common for children to feel irritable, scared, or disoriented. They may not fully understand why they feel pain or discomfort.

• Be patient with mood swings – they are temporary.
• Offer gentle reassurance – say, “Your body is working hard to get better!”
• Encourage rest but allow movement (as recommended by doctors).

Tip: Read a comforting book together, like Can You Smell the Rainbow?, to help them process their feelings.

Supporting Yourself as a Parent

Let’s be honest—this experience is tough for you, too. To be the best support for your child, you need to take care of yourself.

🌸 Lean on your support system – ask for help from family and friends.
🌸 Take deep breaths – your child can sense your anxiety.
🌸 Remind yourself: You’re doing an amazing job.

More Resources for Parents of Children Undergoing Surgery

📌 The Royal Children’s Hospital Surgery Guide – A trusted resource for preparing your child
📌 Children’s Hospital Foundation Support Services – Financial and emotional support for families
📌 Can You Smell the Rainbow? – A comforting book for young children facing medical procedures

Final Thoughts: You’re Not Alone

Supporting your child through surgery is an emotional journey, but with the right preparation, comfort, and patience, you can help them feel safe and supported.

👉 If you’re looking for a heartwarming way to help your child process medical experiences, check out my book Can You Smell the Rainbow? It’s a beautifully illustrated story that helps children understand courage, resilience, and healing.

Sending strength to you and your little one! 💛